The Most Effective Way to Protect Your Emotions

Can you imagine a house without windows? Sunshine would never have a chance to dance through your curtains in the morning and kiss you hello. Gentle breezes would never be able to deliver fresh air. And without a way to look outside, how would you ever know if someone was trying to get in? 

Every house needs a way to look outside. Windows give us access to what is going on around us. Windows allow us to see beyond our perimeter. If we’re under attack or blindsided by circumstances on a continual basis, it may be because we’ve never looked out the window.

For example, how many times have you ever lamented one of these statements?

  • I didn’t see that coming!
  • We have the same fight almost every week.
  • I keep attracting the same type of men over and over again. Men who take advantage of me. What’s wrong with me?
  • I’ve forgiven him so many times, but he never changes. 
  • I keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. What am I doing wrong?

Here’s the deal. If you can’t see where the enemy is gaining access to your emotions, he’ll keep coming back in the same way. He won’t stop until his plot no longer works. You’ve got to be smarter than he is. Like an investigative reporter, you’ve got to learn what to look for.

The devil has a plan of attack. He has strategized schemes. What works for your friend may not work for you. The way he invades her fortress may be different than the scheme he’s created to vandalize your abode. That’s because we all have unique vulnerabilities based on our personalities, maturity, and life experiences.

Military strategists create detailed plans to infiltrate their enemy’s property. Bank robbers study blueprints to find out where the bank is vulnerable. Football coaches watch video upon video. Frame by frame in slow motion, they study the other team’s plays as well as the weaknesses of their players in order to develop a game plan to outmaneuver or overpower their opponent.     

And guess what? You’re no different. Somebody’s watching you. If you don’t know where you are emotionally vulnerable, how will you be able to install reinforcements to protect yourself? How will you guard your emotions? How will you be able to look out?

The enemy loves it when we have no clue how he keeps invading the castle of our emotions. He likes naïve princesses with unguarded castles. He revels when we have no windows to see how he keeps getting in. He wins when we’re blind to his ways.

Without vision, the Bible says we perish (Proverbs 29:18). Without windows, we leave our castles unguarded and susceptible to invasion. When we take the time to figure out the enemy’s plot and protect our weaknesses, however, we can install security in place to defend our emotions from further attacks.


I’m not a fan of focusing on the past. Lot’s wife taught me that lesson. She glanced behind her at Sodom even though the angel warned her, “Do not look back!” She loved her lifestyle and didn’t want to leave. Her heart longed for her past. We all know how that worked out.

#saltywife #shouldhavelistened 

But there are times when it’s important to look back. And one of those times is when we need to study the strategy of the enemy so we can guard our future. In other words, we don’t look back to go back, we look back to look out.

I’m a Law and Order junkie. When Detectives Stabler and Benson are trying to nail a suspect, they may do a stakeout or launch a surveillance plan. They’ll observe the subject in order to figure out his agenda. Their motive is simple: to arrest the suspect and stop him from committing any more crimes.

I also love the drama of Chicago Fire. When investigators look at fire remains, they study the destruction to determine how the fire started. Whether it was due to arson, faulty wiring, an appliance malfunction, or an explosion, they try to figure out ways to prevent another fire from happening in the future. Studying the evidence helps them prevent future destruction and know what not to do next time.

We don’t look back to go back, we look back to look out.

That’s what we’re going to do. We’re going to be detectives and investigators. We’re going to launch a surveillance plan to stop the enemy from committing any more crimes against us. We’ll also study the evidence of our past emotional fires so we can prevent them from happening again.

Our investigative tools are windows. Windows give us an access point, a way to survey the enemy’s plans in order to shut him down. Studying the evidence will help us prevent future demolition!

That’s exactly what we do in Let Go & Thrive, my 8 week online coaching group created to help you leave the past behind and find emotional freedom in relationships. Find out when the next group starts here. The group is a companion study to Free Looks Good on You: Healing the Soul Wounds of Toxic Love, available on Amazon in print, eBook and audio versions.

This post is adapted from chapter 7, Looking Back to Look Out.

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5 Responses to The Most Effective Way to Protect Your Emotions

  1. mosun akinyemi at #

    Thanks for this blog; it’s very helpful.

  2. Robin at #

    Thank You , I’ve been feeling how can I heal my inner child if I don’t look back. All the childhood trauma is. Significant. By looking back I’m investigating how Satan set me up for defeat. By healing those things I can be more effective in God’s Kingdom. Sure wish I would have learned this at an earlier age. God could have used me more effectively.

    • Christy Johnson at #

      We all wish revelation came earlier:) If only I knew back then what I know now…But God is able to restore everything. He is the redeemer of time!

      • Robin at #

        Yes. I’m in the end stages of life (senior) however i know God can still use me. As I heal He still has a ministry for me. I accepted God as my Lord and Savior in 1977. I have worked in children’s ministry, attended church services memorized many many scriptures however had no real victory in my life. Now I see the severe childhood trauma was being used by Satan in my life to discourage me by telling me I’m not worthy don’t trust anyone they will just stab you in the back. He used people in the church to solidify my thoughts through their unkind words. So I ended up leaving the church. I do church on Zoom and live broadcast on tv. I have a strong bond with the ladies I’m doing my 12 steps of recover for my painful past where I filled with food. Which is my addiction. I’m only at step one put by admitting my powerlessness and recognizing God is in all control not me I’ve been able to let go of my need for control and power and am working on my ocd behavior. Thank You so much


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