Were You Born to be Somebody?

 

In 1962 my family moved from Syracuse, New York across the country to Bethany, Oklahoma, otherwise known to easterners as the land of cowboys and Indians. The first thing we did was visit the Cowboy Hall of Fame. My older brothers dressed the part. Bruce and Flip looked like they walked off the set of Bonanza in their new boots and hats.

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That year my baby brother and I, Joey, got a horse for Christmas. Galloping on my new plastic stallion, I announced, “When I grow up, I want to be a cowboy!”

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Looking up from his Yashica Mat camera lens, I heard my father’s booming voice declare, “Christine, you can’t do that! You’re a girl. Girls can’t be cowboys.”

I felt deflated.

My fascination with fashion started young. The only girl among three brothers, my mother loved dressing me up, but one morning, at three-years old, I insisted on putting my own outfit together. It was my first attempt at runway design. I beamed with pride insisting my daddy take a picture of my outfit.

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“Daddy, I want to make clothes when I grow up!”

A hearty laugh slipped out between my father’s lips and his always-in-his-mouth-as-long-as-I-can-remember Swisher Sweet cigar. “Well, Honey, that’ll be the day!”

He adjusted his lens, snapped another picture and announced, “Christine, you have a really active imagination!”

I felt defeated.

There were many times my dreams were met with heavy doses of doubt. The words, “Christine, you can’t do that!” echoed in my mind. It didn’t take long for me to comprehend what the real message was:  Little girls who dreamed were wasting time fanaticizing about things that would never be.

As I grew into my teens, I had big-girl dreams. I wanted to be somebody, to do something big, to make a difference in this world. But the thoughts and dreams never made it out of my mouth. The toxic thought patterns were already set: I can’t do that. Who am I anyway? Why would anything I envision ever come to pass? Imagination is a waste of time.

Words spoken over us can became engrained in our own thought patterns. What others say about us we tell ourselves. Click to Tweet. “You can’t do that. You’re not good enough.”

From an early age, I learned two things. One, that imagination was not a good quality. And two, whatever I imagined, I was not capable of.

That’s the trap of the enemy. The earlier we believe a lie, the deeper the roots go. Click to Tweet. Lies that bring despair, depression and disillusionment. Lies that stop destiny.

But the reality is: Not everything we believe is true. Click to Tweet.

When my father told me I couldn’t do certain things, he was trying to protect me from disappointment. He wasn’t trying to belittle me, but as a young girl, I was not able to process his words. I perceived “You can’t do that!” to mean, “You aren’t worthy. You’re a nobody. Other people are capable, but you don’t have what it takes, so quit trying.”

The devil starts early, ravishing our young minds, bending reality, twisting truth, until he gets us to a point where we stop believing.

Don’t stop believing!

It’s hard to write those words with singing the rest of the song.

Do-on’t stop…..believing….hold onto that fee-eeling.

Ok, sorry for the detour! Anyway….

It took me a long time to realize that my imagination is a gift from God. That without vision I would perish. That God gave me my really active imagination because He wants to align my vision with His vision for my life. Many of the dreams I have were planted there by God Himself!

For I know the plans I have for you says the Lord, plans to prosper you to give you a hope and a future.

Press on for the mark, for the prize of the high calling.

Keep your eyes fixed straight ahead.

my daddy and II ran across this picture the other day. And the Lord said this to me. “It’s time to reimagine some things. I want you to see things in a different light. The way you perceived things growing up has tripped you up, held you back, got you to stop believing, but now it’s time to recreate, to see things from my point of view, not your twisted reality.”

The Lord told me to use this picture of me sitting in father’s lap as a focal point to reinvision my past so I can move forward into a successful future. He told me to look at this picture and imagine my father speaking truth over me.

You CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

You are a conqueror in Christ Jesus.

God has a great future for you.

You are strong in the Lord and the power of His might.

Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world.

That may sound like a silly exercise to you. But…If we want to get rid of lies, we HAVE to replace them. We can’t erase lies. We have to replace lies with truth. Tweet this. And replacing is intention. It’s not passive. It takes time and energy. We can’t just hope lies will vanish. We have to reroute our thinking patterns. Tweet this.

What about you? What lies have you embraced?

  • It’s too late for you.
  • Nobody wants you.
  • You’ll never get over this.
  • You’ll never make it.
  • You’re not good enough.
  • You’re:
    • Too old
    • Too young
    • Too inexperienced
    • Too weak
    • Too fat
    • Too ugly
    • Too skinny
    • Too pretty to be smart

Woooo! Stop! Can you imagine God ever saying those words about you? Absolutely not! And to allow those thoughts to stay between your eyeballs will hinder God’s plan for you. It’s time to deliver an eviction notice!

What are the lies you’ve believed? I want to challenge you to take a moment to  identify the lies in your life. Then ask the Lord to give you a focal point that you can use to begin the process of re-imagining truth. Maybe, like me, it’s a picture. Maybe it’s a place you can go that brings peace and stimulates truth. Maybe it’s an activity like running, taking a walk, or whacking a tennis ball. God will show you. It’s time to erase the lies and re-imagine! God has a beautiful future in store for you!

As for me, I ran across another picture in our family photo album—a sneak peak of my future.

my destinyGod knew even back then I was born to make a difference. Like the church bells in the background, I was born to ring and declare God’s truth. I was born to be somebody. And so were you! Tweet this.

 

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10 Responses to Were You Born to be Somebody?

  1. Diettra Edwards January 15, 2015 at 2:28 pm #

    Thanks Christina for this timely word of encouragement. I have struggled with this for the past few years and have recently stood up against this lie in my own life. I now, have an expectation and hope for what God is going to do and how, He will use me.
    God’s Blessings continue to be upon you and your ministry.

    • Sophia January 15, 2015 at 3:00 pm #

      Hello Christine

      Yo ur post is so on time for many women. You are so right because so many women allow others to define who they are or who they are not. We do have to realize at a young age that God created us for greatness. I myself learned in my early twenties to ask the father who do he say I am. His reply was your my daughter.

  2. Christy Johnson January 15, 2015 at 4:02 pm #

    Amen! We are all HIS daughters!

  3. Dawn January 19, 2015 at 1:27 pm #

    Thank you for this I found it right on time. I have struggled with these many lies for years. But as this year I am defeating every lie I ever believed about myself. I can accomplish anything I attempt. I am not a failure or not good enough anymore. Again, thank you.

    • Christy Johnson January 21, 2015 at 7:01 am #

      Praising God with you Dawn! He is the Restorer!

    • Miss Anita Pearce September 15, 2017 at 2:43 pm #

      Hello Dawn,

      I was so thrilled to see your message to Christy, from over two years ago. I too have to find a way to go through the process you described and that was touched upon by Christy.

      I would really like to know about the progress you have made since you posted your message here. Do you now spread the positive news and the method to help others to find the same freedom – at a fraction of the cost of therapists!? If so, please give me a link to your website or other online address.,

      Should you be in need of further support, I recently came across another lady online who is now a motivational speaker, called Lisa Nichols. She doesn’t use religion in her talks, but she certainly went through the mill to defeat the bad circumstances of her birth and young adulthood and to soar as high as she now is doing. The hardest part of it was the examination of all her toxic behaviours I seem to recall her saying.

      Another lady is Dr Jamie Turndorf, whose late husband was a French Jesuit priest named Emile Jean Pin, although she herself is Jewish. She is a very warm and encouraging lady also does not use religion in her inspriational talks. She has books on the theme of Love Never Dies and a radio station (online only I think).
      She also interviews other self-help authors which is very interesting as they have useful wisdom and that blends with Dr Jamie Turndorf’s (“Dr Love’s”) perspective during their conversations on the radio.

      Anyway, please let me know how you have progressed, if you hae. No judgements are being put by me upon anyone. I am on the starting line at the age of 54, struggling to take responsibility for myself!

      Kind regards
      Anita Pearce.

  4. dien dan rao vat lang son August 17, 2015 at 6:19 am #

    Yes! Finally someone writes about old.

  5. Shelley Stevenson September 13, 2015 at 5:09 pm #

    “It’s time to reimagine some things. I want you to see things in a different light. The way you perceived things growing up has tripped you up, held you back, got you to stop believing, but now it’s time to recreate, to see things from my point of view, not your twisted reality.” I love this because I believe if your dad had known better he would have done better. So in your reimagining, just know that would have been how he would have wanted it to be if he’d known better.

  6. Patty February 29, 2016 at 11:10 pm #

    This is straight to the point. The enemy attacks us young because he knows if we grow up believing the truth that we will be too strong for him to stop later. Like an elephant trained from a baby to have a chain around its leg and bound to a stick in the ground, we grow up chained by the enemy’s lies and we are stuck or limited in what we can do because of the lies we believe. Thank the LORD that these chains are being broken! I am over 50 and being set free from the lies sent to be through my mom and my siblings. I, too, had big dreams only to be told or scolded “who do you think your are?” “You’re nobody! ” Now, I know my TRUE identity in Christ Jesus and, you know what? I am somebody worthy of love so much that Christ died for me! Jesus Christ never leaves me nor forsakes me. It is only when I choose to believe the lies that I despair and lose hope. “If your eyes are on the storm, you will wonder if I love you. But if your eyes are on the cross, you’ll know I love you and I always will”! (song on the radio). This speaks volumes. Think about what you are thinking about. And if God would not say it, then cast it out and replace those thoughts with God’s thoughts. “I CAN do all things through Christ who strengthens me!”

    • Christy Johnson March 1, 2016 at 2:04 pm #

      Patty,

      Yes, Patty, you CAN do all things! Thanks for taking the time to comment. I love the analogy about the elephant chained. Just like us, when a giant of an animal with power and potential is put into bondage the result is limiting beliefs that restrain our future.

      Your past sounds a lot like mine. I reread this post again so I could relate to your comments . Reading what I wrote over a year ago ministered to me in a whole new way. Wow. God never stops working on us!

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